A common saying in dating and relationship communities is that opposites attract. While this saying often refers to the physical qualities that people have, and the propensity for these people to look for those qualities in a mate, there are also other connotations at play. Opposites also attract when it comes to more deep issues in a relationship, and those issues can sometimes be highly beneficial for couples and marriages to have. For more information on the specifics of how opposite personalities can benefit a relationship or marriage, check out the details provided below.
They Compliment Each Other’s Strengths and Weaknesses
People with opposite personality types typically have certain strengths and weaknesses that are different from one another. In a relationship, these differences can be beneficial. Situations in which one partner can excel when another would fail are more likely to succeed because of the opposite personality types. If one partner is struggling with a certain life issue, the other is likely well equipped to handle it. Couples who share the same strengths and weaknesses are likely to both fail when encountering an issue in life that neither of them is adept at handling.
They Encourage New Experiences
People who enjoy the same things may be able to find many things in common with each other, but this often means they will stick to these patterns as a couple as well. Couples with opposite personality types are more likely to encourage their partner to seek out and enjoy new life experiences they also enjoy. This encouragement can easily spark new favorite pastimes and life choices that would probably not have happened without the couple wanting different experiences out of their lives.
They Solve Problems More Effectively
Two people who think similarly will usually arrive at similar conclusions to a problem, and that conclusion may not always be correct. By approaching issues in different ways, a couple that thinks opposite of each other will have two potential strategies to solving the issue, which expands their decision-making abilities. Simply by thinking in opposing ways, each partner in a marriage may have a separate solution, which increases their chances of making the correct decision to any problem or issue in life.
They Encourage Growth, as Opposed to Reflection
Marriage partners typically spend a great deal of time with each other. During this time, both partners affect each other’s lives in subtle ways, which often causes changes in a person. When two people are alike, they tend to reflect each other since they often feel similarly on most things. However, if two people are radically different, they grow and learn simply by being an intimate part of each other’s lives. This is more commonly referred to as “rubbing off on someone,” though this effect is often heightened in a marriage.
They are More Likely to Communicate
Couples who tend to agree on most things are more likely to avoid arguments. However, a healthy relationship requires communication, and couples who agree often on issues are less likely to verbalize how they feel don’t agree on an issue. While hostile arguments are absolutely not encouraged, healthy, communicative debate on issues and problems allows couples to clear the air and openly resolve disagreements they may have, and opposite personalities are often more likely to achieve this. If the communication is done with care and understanding, the relationship is more likely to benefit as a result.
Everyone in the world is different, and because of these differences as people, we are likely to exhibit differences in how we choose our mates in life. Some people prefer to share their lives with people that resemble themselves and with whom they are more likely to agree. Other people prefer to find someone that is vastly different from them. There are benefits to each of these relationship types but expect some experiences in which the coupling of two differently minded individuals may not happen. When opposites attract, a relationship has the potential to develop benefits that are unique and helpful to the growth and maintenance of their bond.