As social beings we expect to be treated properly and hope that we are liked. When we are disappointed about those things we can become disagreeable resulting in fireworks and a lack of harmony. Be nice to people if you would like to preserve the peace. Here are some tips on how to be nice to people when it doesn’t come naturally.
Try Wearing Their Shoes
When other people are not being nice, it’s often hard for you to be nice. So try to imagine yourself in their shoes to better understand their issues, and be nice to such people because you can.
Follow the Golden Rule
Is there a better guide for living than the golden rule? Treat others as you would like to be treated and you will find it a lot easier to be nice to people.
Control Your Feelings
If someone slights you or hurts your feelings you’ll have to control your feelings (count to 10?) in order to be nice to that person. But controlling your feelings is a sign of maturity and if you can be nice to people even when you’d rather lash out, you are really in control of yourself and you are a better person as a result.
Always Look for the Good in Others
Sometimes you have to look hard, but you can almost always find something good in others. Thinking about the good in people helps you to be nice to them.
Picture Them as Honored Guests
When it’s really difficult to be nice to people try picturing them as honored guests in your home. Be nice to them because they are your guests and that’s your obligation as host.
Practice Makes Perfect
These various strategies are designed to make it a bit easier for you to be nice to people, even when you’d rather not. Practice these techniques until they become habits and you will be well on your way toward making your slice of the world a better place.